Can we define what makes a relationship? Is it the unconditional love you give to someone or is it the amount of time and effort you put into making the best of what you have together?
More than likely, some of us if not all can relate to these questions. Being in a true relationship is what everyone wants and desires, but to have that, your companion must be on the same level you’re on. No one wants an unstable relationship because without balance and structure you can't manage to stay together no matter how much you care or are in love. Finding that special somebody who completes you and never wants to leave your side is hard to find. That’s something you try to hold on to as best as you can if you have it. As the saying goes “another man’s trash is another man’s treasure,” be careful not to let go. In my own personal experience, I’ve had ups and downs in my past relationships but eventually my heart found its way back home. I too had to take time and rebuild trust and get over my anxiety of things turning out for the worst. When being in misfit relationships for so long, you tend to lose touch with reality and you neglect to see that every guy isn’t the same. It’s just that the qualities you look for aren’t set at a high expectation. Tons of people would be glad to get someone who would give their last and never want for nothing. But there’s always a downfall to everything in life. As we all know relationships can either make you strong and bring out the best characteristics in you or break you so far to your knees to where you don’t even care to love again. Which brings me to say that most relationships are based off of one thing: Lust. Lust is the four letter word that you want to stray from. It only brings heartache and pain if not to you but both you and your spouse. It’s the word that’s described as someone being their only for the physical side and not for what matters most. If that’s what it has to lead to then I strongly suggest that you think twice before acting upon that decision. That can bring so much emotional baggage into play and could nevertheless cause tension between you and your significant other. Love should be the potential target. Without that you’ve lost the foundation of even being in a healthy relationship. At some point in our lives, we all know what that feeling is like. Butterflies at the pit of your stomach when you hear his/her name, your mind constantly wonders and wishes you were where they are. Having that under your belt makes life so much easier. When the sun sets and the stars shine, you and your significant should both know that there’s no other person that they would rather be with. It’s hard to tell if you’ve found what you’re looking for, but trust me when that time comes you’ll know exactly how to tell.
